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Well, my talk with great grandma went so much better than I had expected. I think she finally has realized the severity of the situation. I was worried about how I would present it to her. I was looking for a way to make it clear that it's about the kids and nothing else. She understood and said no hard feelings and the kids have a long life ahead of them and we don't want to scar them. I was actually quite floored by her response. She sounded secretly relieved. I think she is becoming overwhelmed. I'm going to leave things as they are for another week or two to give her a chance to do a little hands on learning with the kids and my MIL. She mostly just keeps them seperated. So, she wanted a chance for all of them to talk about it together. I'll start rearraging the schedules and such in about two weeks. In the mean time I'm just keeping a close eye on the kids.

I'm happy to report that Caden is no longer getting in fights at school. I was so shocked when he started telling me about some of his school issues. He's such a mellow, go with the flow kind of kid. He never gets angry or worked up. I guess some kid in the older class started poking fun at him and Caden wasn't going to have that. So he hit the kid in the face. On one hand I'm glad he's standing up for himself. On the other we have an issue of fighting to address. This same scenario went on for about 2 months. All the teacher ever saw was Caden hitting the kid. So he kept getting put in time out. After a while Caden decided he didn't like school anymore and didn't want to go. I realize that talking to your kid's teacher about his personal social issues is the last thing that will ever help your children......but he's just way too young to lose interest in school now. He hasn't even made it to Kindergarten! So I talked to the teacher. No change. Then I talked to the director. Immediately the issue was addressed and the children made up and no longer call names or exchange punches. It's been about 3 weeks or so since they last fought so I think we call this one resolved.

I'm also happy to report that this week my daughter has not acted like a psychotic future serial killer. She really had me worried for a bit. She would fly off the handle, get really really angry (beyond terrible 2's), ball up her fists, face turn red, scream, yell, and stay mad for hours. It was really stressing me out. I started thinking that maybe something had happened to her, but then I realized that it had just been a crazy past month for all of us. Being there while grandma was dying, me working and then not working and then working, her being sick for the first time, and dealing with her alzheimer's gma just stressed her to the max and she didn't know how to deal with it. Last weekend I took Macy along with me for Becky's wedding planning and did a girls day. We went to the bridal fair, watched a fashion show, went out to lunch and went to the bridal store and tried on frilly dresses. It was a good day. I thought she could use some special one on one time and it has seemed to help. This week has been mostly back to normal.

I am however very upset at the current situation in my house. My children won't play with me anymore! All Caden wants to do is hang out in his room and play xbox. Macy wants to stay in her room and watch Dora on demand all night. No one will come out of thier room to play and I'm not invited into their room. I thought my kids would be a little bit older before they kicked me to the curb. Last night I even drug them out to Ihop against their wishes just so they would spend some time with me. I knew if we were at home I could count out spending any time with them. I've just been sitting around in the evening going, "Well, what am I supposed to do now?" It's a bizzare feeling in my house right now.

Well, we are looking forward to seeing everyone next weekend at gma's bday dinner. Hopefully I can get the kids hair cut before then. Cade's hair is down to his shoulders (literally) and Macy looks horrible. Our hair lady was on bedrest for a bit and now on maternity leave. So we all look pretty scraggily. Caden is too pretty to have hair so long. He looks like a girl.LOL. It actually does sit on his shoulders. We keep his hair a little long but not like this! Tball signups are next week and when March rolls around practices and games will start. We bought his cleets this week. They are so small and so adorable. I can't wait to see him in his little uniform. He'll play in Moore so hopefully most of you can make it out to some games. It will be hilarious. Enough rambling. See you guys next weekend!